The article I'm a Straight Girl, but Wish I Were a Gay Guy.
People - of all genders, of all orientations - have all sorts of sexual preferences when it comes to porn. So back to the real core of your question: what does it mean that you are turned on by gay men in porn? Mostly that you are turned on by gay men in porn. This is good to keep in mind not just for yourself, but also when you have partners in the future. Many people find that their identity and orientation remain the same, but some folks find that they shift or change as they get older, and meet different people or learn more about themselves and their preferences. In addition to being on a spectrum, or something other than black-or-white, sexual orientation and gender identity can both be fluid, or change over time. Someone might identify as 100% male or 100% gay, but many people find they feel more like something in between, or some variation (for instance, being attracted to a specific type of person, or personality, or sexual orientation, like gay men). The way that we identify and our sexual attraction falls on a spectrum and can be really mushy or unclear. You state that you are not currently attracted to females, so chances are you are not bisexual or bi-curious.Īn important thing to note is that both with gender identity and sexual orientation (as well as our biological sex and the way that we express our gender) it is not always black and white, male and female, straight or gay. Being "bisexual" or "bi-curious" refers to someone being attracted to (or being interested in exploring sex or a relationship with) both males and females. My summary of gender identity and sexual orientation here is extremely simple (you can read the articles I linked you to for a more in depth look at things), but the bottom line is that they are two separate parts of ourselves. Something I think many people often misunderstand is that gender identity and sexual orientation are two separate things, and that if your gender identity (the gender that you identify as) is not aligned with your body parts, then this directly affects your sexual orientation (who you are sexually attracted to), and vice versa. You expressed that you are confident that you are a girl and are comfortable in your body, but that your attraction to gay men is confusing.
There are a couple of ideas here that might be helpful to break down and give you a little more security and clarity in your feelings. Discovering something that turns you on from watching porn or reading erotica can further complicate these attractions, as you might not know where you and your body fit into this sexual fantasy. It can also feel confusing if your attraction doesn't seem to match with the "straight", "gay", or "bisexual" categories, or the ways you might see those presented in the media or online. People's attractions can change over time, and can be difficult to describe. Society sends us messages that only certain types of sexual attraction is "normal", when in reality everyone is different, and there is no "normal". Sexual attraction can feel really confusing, regardless of whether you identify as straight, gay, bisexual, queer, or anything else. I mean this isn't called 'bi-curious?' But I'm not interested in other girls.įirst of all, I think that it is wonderful that you seem very self-aware and in touch with your interests and desires. Except, a gay guy wouldn't do that with anyone unless it's another male. I'm jealous of that and I want that, but if I were ever to feel that same pleasure, I want a guy to give it to me. I just think guys honestly have get more pleasure with their parts than girls do with our parts. I get more pleasured thinking about how it feels to have another guy give me a blowjob if I had a penis and imagining a girl doing it turns me off. As I stated before, I'm a girl and I like my body, even my genitals, but when I watch gay porn, I touch myself and imagine I have a penis. Also I find it absolutely amazing watching a guy suck another guy on porn, it just seems so pleasuring.
Most of the gay porn I watch are usually the ones where one of the guys initiate first and the other is reluctant at first. And recently, I find myself watching gay porn. This is weird, but even when I watch porn, on occasions I watch male and female, but most of the time.